My Way or the Highway!
Navigating Difficult Conversations
All-Day Workshop Friday, February 2
San Damiano Retreat Center, Danville, CA
Register online: $30 At the Door: $35
Doors open at 9:30 am
Workshop from 10 am - 5 pm
Presented by Kern Beare and Libby Traubman
Sponsored by Conscious Elders Network
Most of us have experienced difficult conversations where we feel judgment creeping in and frustration welling up. How can we turn these negative interactions into creative and constructive engagement? How can we begin to heal the broken relationships in our present-day society?
Following the 2016 election, Kern Beare embarked on a coast-to-coast road trip, searching for answers to those questions by talking to as diverse a cross-section of America as he could find. In this workshop, Kern shares what he experienced and learned, offering a dynamic set of principles and strategies that enable us to engage in meaningful dialogue with anyone—regardless of economic, social, and ideological differences. Join us at beautiful San Damiano Retreat Center for a rich and interactive day of learning how our mind and heart can make all the difference in navigating difficult conversations.
By attending you will be able to:
- Gain a greater understanding of the dynamics that turn conversations into conflicts.
- Discover how one critical shift in thinking can turn a negative interaction into a creative and constructive engagement.
- Understand how our personal story can be a tool to both build bridges and burn them.
- Learn to access more easily and deeply your inborn capacity for connection and compassion.
- Learn about the four principles that can turn a dialogue into a powerful tool for personal and collective transformation.
During our time together we will highlight the imperative of engaging in meaningful conversations across our differences, by exploring the dynamics that cause a "mind-heart disconnect" and produce Conflict.
We will look at the science behind the mind-heart disconnect, including how threats to our beliefs trigger the same defense mechanisms as threats to our physical survival, and how when that happens we lose the ability to empathize, listen and learn.
We will explore how we’re in our own sort of bubble through which we see, interpret and interact with the world—often distorting our perceptions and causing miscommunication, misinterpretation, and misunderstanding.
We will introduce, and deepen into, a set of four practices that when faced with difficult conversations will expand our capacity to “in the moment” see beyond the bubble of our self-told story and unleash our natural ‘heart’ for empathy, connection, understanding and taking in the bigger picture.
Included will be access to a list of continuously updated resources.
Kern Beare is a former VP of communications for a large tech firm in Silicon Valley, CA. After leaving the corporate world in 2005, he co-founded Global Mindshift, a non-profit offering for online workshops for how to live in a global community. In 2016 Kern founded Pop the Bubble, the organization through which he delivers this workshop. He is also a program officer and strategic consultant for the Enlight Collaborative, a connected and resourced community of organizations empowering youth as change makers. Kern and his wife Amy live in Mountain, CA and have two grown sons.
Elizabeth “Libby” Traubman is a retired clinical social worker, founding Board member of Conscious Elders Network, and co-founder of the 25-year-old Jewish-Palestinian Living Room Dialogue. Married 50 years, she and her husband, Len, co-produced five documentary films including Dialogue at Washington High; PEACEMAKERS: Palestinians & Jews Together at Camp; and DIALOGUE IN NIGERIA: Muslims & Christians Creating Their Future. They co-facilitated the 2017 post-election CROSSING LINES IN SAN MATEO: Sharing stories, Creating Community. In 1994, Libby was inducted into the San Mateo County Women's Hall of Fame.